How to Know If Your Christian Dating Relationship is Toxic [185]

As terrible as being married to an abuser is, there’s something worse.

It’s getting free from your abuser, then getting remarried to another one. 

For a lot of survivors, that’s their worst fear. 

Can they trust themselves to identify red flags when they were taught to dismiss them for so long? Will they be able to see past the BS if a potential suitor is slick and smooth but a turd of a guy underneath the facade? How can they be sure they’re choosing a safe, truly good person, not a Dr. Jekyll / Mr. Hyde?

I know that fear all too well. And I trust myself to choose good people now. (I did; I’m remarried to one.) I’ve also taught hundreds upon hundreds of women how to spot red flags in relationships. 

By the time you listen to this episode, you’ll know whether your Christian dating relationship (or any dating relationship) is toxic.

The seven deal-breakers:

• Cannot accept negative feedback
• Little or no empathy
• Has to have his own way
• Communicates passive-aggressively (plus 14 EXAMPLES/QUESTIONS to help you identify passive-aggressive behavior)
• Prioritizes his own interests (including not respecting your time, refusing to be honest or discuss his past, bad with money, a boundary-breaker, and other examples)
• Won’t take responsibility for his behavior (plus 5 EXAMPLES/QUESTIONS to help you see whether this is true about him)
• He consumes you; the relationship is slowly destroying your self-worth, your friendships, your potential, and your interests (plus 3 QUESTIONS to ask yourself to know if this is true) 

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