How Far Should I Go to Give My Emotionally Abusive Husband a Chance to Change? [196]

I remember thinking that if I could just hit on the right inflection in my voice maybe or the correct tone or the perfect combination of words or the right attitude — you know, one of subservience and humility so as not to trigger his fragile ego and bring down his wrath — I’d finally get through. He’d finally get it. The wall would come crumbling down.

Nope.

When I finally filed for divorce, he suddenly said he’d seen the light. He’s willing to go to counseling. If I don’t give him this “final” chance (there have been so many “final” chances), I’ll feel like I didn’t do enough.

Is this you?

This episode defines “enough”:

• What a 10-year-old kid and an iPad have to do with an abusive husband and therapy
• Why there’s not much hope for abusers
• The reason your body’s “ick” reaction to your husband’s Hail Mary shows it’s wiser than your mental second-guessing
• How many chances I gave my ex-husband, and how mad it made God when I stopped (Spoiler Alert: It didn’t make God mad)
• Why feeling conflicted in your emotionally abusive marriage is COMPLETELY NORMAL
• What DARVO is (and what it has to do with cats and ducks)
• Why you’re asking the wrong questions

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