44: Navigating Narcissism on the Farm

In this episode, my guest is Lauren Van Ewyk, co-founder of the National Farmer Mental Health Alliance, agricultural mental health advocate, social worker, foster parent, sheep farmer, and PhD student on a mission to give farmers better access to ag-informed therapists.

We explore what narcissism has to do with farm family dynamics and why not understanding the truth—that we are fiercely loved and incredibly precious—ultimately blocks us from healthy relationship dynamics and personal growth. This episode is full of practical strategies, insight, and resources to help you navigate the complexities of your life as a farmer.

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Timestamps

0:00:30 The story of Elaine’s stuffed sheep 0:02:25 Introduction to Lauren Van Ewyk 0:03:10 What is a narcissist when it comes to farm family dynamics 0:05:48 Helpful language for dealing with feeling attacked  0:07:52 You play an invaluable role in our world and community 0:09:46 Curiosity is a really valuable tool 0:11:24 It’s all about identity 0:14:25 What does ‘dropping a stone’ mean 0:15:44 The impact of generational trauma  0:17:02 Unhelpful guilt and people pleasing 0:19:58 The dark side of resilience and workaholism  0:22:18 How to begin navigating towards a healthy dynamic on the farm