34: Tools for better listening

In this episode, my guest is Farm Family Coach Lyle Wiens - a professional Agrologist and Grain Marketing Advisor, with training in conflict management, mediation, and group facilitation.

We discuss Lyle’s knowledge on an approach to leadership called the “Art of Hosting”, including the four Principles of Dialogue in which the goal is a meaningful and impactful dialogue that is respectful, creative, generative, and allows for solutions. Listeners will gain insightful and practical wisdom on how to achieve a farm family transition that is oriented towards creating conditions for positive relationships and building healthy teams and organizational culture.

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Timestamps

0:00:30 Introduction to Lyle Wiens

0:03:34 Art of Hosting and the Principles of Dialogue

0:05:33 Key Principles of the Principles of Dialogue

0:08:42 What it means to “host yourself”

0:10:03 Listening vs Convincing

0:10:42 Barry Johnson and Polarity

0:13:51 Honoring the intensity of agriculture

0:18:00 Power dynamic in farm family transition

0:18:45 Navigating and hosting powerful people

0:20:00 Sitting with tension and being conflict-aware

0:22:23 The stories we tell ourselves

0:23:25 Power, Control, and Perfectionism

0:25:42 Nonviolent Communication

0:26:23 Life-alienating Communication

0:27:26 Moralistic Judgements

0:29:16 Limiting Beliefs 

0:31:35 There’s always a choice 

0:36:25 Crying and the culture of love 

0:35:42 A generational resistance to face-to-face conversation