Advice to married people

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. The house of marriage is not a den where the wrestling is taking place. Today you win, tomorrow I win. These are places of peace and security. Just like a ship that travels in the sea, there is a storm that also suffers. And when it comes to the ship, even if there is a storm, where will it go? So the ship is a place where you get peace. The storm has left behind. So create the home as a place of tranquility. In this marriage you are making an oath and you are making a promise to yourself, both the husband and the wife. Yes. That your attention will not go to anyone other than the two of you. His attention to you and your attention to him. You are making an oath to yourself that our attention will not go anywhere else than you. The second thing Allah mentioned was Mawaddah. Love. Love for each other. In Islam and in psychology, love is the foundation of respect. Please understand this. Love is the foundation of respect. Love is not a sign of lust. There is a difference between the two. Lust is a beastly trait. It is in us too. It is in everyone. But Allah did not say that lust is my sign. Allah said love is my sign. So love is the foundation of respect. So we must respect each other. Every person is respected. He is respected. He is loved. He is respected. Whoever is respected is loved. The one whom they respect, The one who loves their mother and father, Their respect is within us. If there is no respect, There can be no love. The second word Allah mentioned was Love. The foundation of love is respect. Allah did not say lust. Lust is a human emotion, But Allah didn't mention that as a sign. He said love. the foundation of love is respect. You respect your mother, you respect your father, and then you love them. Because of the respect, you love them. But if respect goes away, then love goes away. So it is very important for the husband and the wife to respect each other, to show that respect to each other, not to laugh at each other, not to make jokes at each other, not to treat each other with disrespect, not to use bad language against each other, not to curse your wife, not for the wife to curse the husband. These are very common things today. Very common things today. The tongue is the worst enemy of ourselves. There is the hadith of Prophet Muhammad, where he said, and when the Prophet Muhammad, they mentioned the hadith, they actually acted out. They said, he held his tongue like this. And he said, this will take more people into Jahannam than anything else. Huzoor Qasim said, and you held your tongue like this in the middle of the fingers, and you said, will this take so many people into Jahannam or will it take something else? Will it take something else? Will it take something else? Will it take something else? Will it take something else? Because the tongue, we use it to hurt each other, to curse at each other, to backbite people, to slander people, to tell lies and false witness. All of the tongue, All of them lead to Jahannam. So watch your tongue. Watch your tongue. I say to the husbands especially, because in the home the man has a position, the man is stronger, and I get many complaints from women who have been married and recently married. My husband is cursing me, my husband is using foul language against me. And I have nobody here. Remember that the woman comes to you, she comes alone. You are in your environment. You are in your family. She is leaving everything to come to you. She is leaving her family. She is leaving her environment. She is coming to you. Treat her with respect. Treat her with love. Treat her with affection. And you will have a beautiful home. And if you oppress her, if you curse her, if you... May Allah have mercy on you. May Allah have mercy do worse. Then remember she is not alone. She is not alone because the one who's alone, who is the that is the caretaker of that one? Allah .