Broken relationships are among life's most painful experiences, but they don't have to stay that way. Diving into Matthew 18:15, we uncover Jesus' remarkably practical blueprint for healing relational wounds and restoring broken connections.
At the heart of biblical conflict resolution is a counterintuitive first step: "go." While human nature tempts us to wait for others to make amends or hope problems resolve themselves, Jesus calls us to take initiative. This single instruction challenges our passive approach to fractured relationships and invites us to courageous action. The verse continues with equally important guidance about keeping matters private—addressing issues directly with the person involved rather than spreading grievances to others. This privacy protects dignity and creates space for authentic reconciliation without the complications of public opinion.
Most revealing is Jesus' language about "gaining" your brother. This perspective transforms how we approach difficult conversations. Rather than entering conflict to win arguments or prove points, we enter seeking to win back what's truly valuable—the relationship itself. When practiced faithfully, this approach to conflict becomes a powerful testimony of Christ's love in a culture that normalizes division and grudge-holding. Through three practical reminders—pray first, speak with both grace and truth, and be willing to forgive—we learn to turn moments of tension into opportunities for deeper connection. Is there someone in your life you need to approach today? Don't wait another day to take that first step toward healing. Your act of obedience might just transform brokenness into blessing.