Ep. 151: Letting Go of Control: Trusting God with Your Marriage and Your Spouse

Do you find yourself trying to “fix” your spouse, control the outcome of your marriage, or manage every detail so nothing goes wrong? You're not alone—and you're not broken for feeling that way. But there is a better, more freeing path forward.

In this episode, Chris & Jamie unpack why we try to control our marriages, what’s really behind that urge, and how learning to surrender our grip can bring peace. You’ll gain insight, scriptural truth, and practical steps to help you trust God more deeply with your marriage and your spouse.

🔑 Key Topics Covered:

What Control Looks Like in Marriage

• Constant correction, micromanaging, withholding support
• How control often disguises itself as “help” or “concern”
• Scripture Highlight: Galatians 5:1, James 4:1–2

 What’s Behind the Need for Control?

• Fear 
• Control as self-protection when trust in God wavers
• Scripture Highlight: 2 Timothy 1:7, Psalm 56:3

 The Problem with Control

• Damages emotional safety and connection
• Stifles the Holy Spirit’s work
• Leaves you exhausted and discouraged
• Quote: “Letting go of control doesn’t mean giving up—it means giving God His rightful place.”

 How to Surrender Control and Trust God

• Identify your fears and release them to God
• Shift from pressure to prayer
• Scripture Highlight:Matthew 11:28–30

💬 Powerful Takeaway Quote:

“Control often feels like protection—but it’s actually a heavy burden God never asked us to carry.”

🎯 Call to Action:

• Share this episode with a friend who may be carrying too much
• Want more support? Learn about Christian marriage counseling at ExpeditionMarriage.org/marriage

Don't forget: A great marriage isn’t found—it’s built, one intentional step at a time. Keep showing up. Keep trusting God. We’re cheering you on.