How to Effectively Communicate with a Hostile Ex

In this episode

• Lepage Associates is home to a highly experienced team of experts dedicated to helping you with your concerns. 
• They recognize that when people seek a psychologist, therapy, or psychiatric services, they are experiencing a problem they would like solved. 
• By the time you start to think about seeking a mental health service, you have likely tried at least some alternatives, and those have not improved the situation to your satisfaction or given you the answers you seek.
• BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Personal Attacks, and Social Media Meltdowns
• Dr. Lepage gives an overview of what her practice does.
• We talk about ways to communicate with ex-spouses that are not disruptive to co-parenting.
• "Brief" is a really good communication style to learn. 
• The more irritated or agitated we are, the harder it is to be our best selves as a parent that day. So to the extent, we can keep boundaries in our own lives and not jump into these pools of hostility when we don't have to, it's not only great for our own mental health, but it's great for our parenting.

Rules for effective communication

• Always ask, "Do I need to reply to this at all?"
• Leave out the three "A's"
  • Advice
  • Admonishments
  • Apologies

Mentioned in this episode:

• Articles and Podcasts mentioned
•  The High Conflict Institute

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