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075: Mastering Boundaries: Are You the CEO of Your Own Boardroom? with Dana Skaggs

Author
Carolyn Swora
Published
Tue 09 Jul 2024
Episode Link
https://sites.libsyn.com/456507/075-mastering-boundaries-are-you-the-ceo-of-your-own-boardroom-with-dana-skaggs

As leaders, are we truly the CEO of our own boardroom, or are we letting external and internal forces dictate our behavior? This profound question formed the crux of a recent conversation with Dana Skaggs who has worked with many leaders in her practice, Dana Skaggs is a licensed psychotherapist known as "The Queen of Boundaries" with 16 years of experience in private practice, specializing in anxiety and trauma work. She serves as a board member for the Intermountain Psychological Association and frequently appears as a guest on ABC-affiliate WJHL Daytime Tri-Cities, where she discusses the emotional aspects of everyday problems.

Dana has contributed to the article “Second Opinions: How You Can Leverage Mindset to Change Behaviour” in the journal “A Plus” from the Hong Kong Institute of Certified Public Accountants and is a regular contributor to “The Maverick Paradox Magazine.” She also hosts the podcast "Phoenix and Flame," which is globally ranked in the top 5%, and provides online Boundary courses and coaching.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

  • Understanding Boundaries: Dana emphasizes that boundaries are crucial for self-management and effective leadership. They help individuals take responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, and actions while allowing others to do the same. 📏

  • People-Pleasing: Dana discusses the common issue of people-pleasing and how it often leads to unnecessary stress and emotional turmoil. She highlights the importance of recognizing and stepping away from this behavior. 🚫

  • The Boardroom Analogy: Dana introduces the concept of the internal boardroom, where different parts of oneself are acknowledged and managed by the 'CEO' part, helping maintain control during challenging interactions. 🏢

  • The Hook Visualization: She provides a visualization technique to avoid getting 'hooked' by provocative comments or situations, maintaining emotional composure and focus. 🎣

  • Handling Hard Conversations: Dana shares strategies for approaching difficult conversations with calm and clarity, ensuring they are productive and respectful. 🗣️

  • The Boomerang Effect: She explains the 'boomerang' effect of unresolved issues that return as intrusive thoughts and how addressing them directly can prevent emotional outbursts and build trust. 🪃

  • Trust and Boundaries: The conversation ties into Brene Brown's BRAVING trust framework, emphasizing how boundaries are fundamental to building trust in leadership and teamwork. 🤝

We talk about:

  • 00:00 Intro

  • 02:42 Understanding Boundaries at Work

  • 04:05 The Concept of People Pleasing

  • 07:52 Managing Emotional Responses

  • 10:25 The Boardroom Technique

  • 18:53 Practical Steps for Setting Boundaries

  • 21:38 Understanding Emotional Triggers

  • 25:13 The Boomerang Effect

  • 27:35 Building Trust Through Boundaries

#Boundaries #Leadership #Trust #EmotionalIntelligence

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