[LIVE] Are Enneagram 5s really great listeners, or do we just look like we’re listening?

In this live episode, we dig into a common belief about Fives that seems flattering on the surface but gets more complicated the deeper you go. We talk about what listening actually looks like for us, why presence is harder than it seems, and how emotional bandwidth plays into the equation.

We also share what’s been lighting up our curiosity lately (spoiler: it includes alien documentaries, tornado footage, and an obsessive dive into Pokémon Emerald), and debate a Would You Rather that pits emotional exposure against slow internet. It got intense.

To wrap things up, we reflect on where we’ve been growing (and where we’ve been hiding) and what happens when we stop waiting for the perfect conditions and just show up.

IN THIS EPISODE:

• Red, Yellow, Green – COVID recovery, job burnout, and existential aging
• Current Curiosities – Pokémon stats, weather disasters, and the nerdy joys of lighting setups
• Myth Busting – The difference between appearing to listen and actually being present
• Would You Rather – Hourly emotional check-ins or research with throttled internet? You have to pick.
• Growth vs. Comfort – Hosting with no agenda, launching without overthinking, and saying yes before everything feels safe

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🗒️ Full transcript and show notes: enneagramfive.com/53

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