Why It’s So Hard to Say "No": The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3
- Author
- Allison Ly
- Published
- Tue 13 May 2025
- Episode Link
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Why It’s So Hard to Say "No" as Adults with Immigrant Parents
Episode 5: Your Values or Your Family's? The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3
Are you constantly giving, helping, and sacrificing—yet still feel guilty or that you're not doing enough? You’re not alone. In this episode, we go deeper into the Repay Cycle™ and explore why these emotional patterns run so deep for adults with immigrant parents.
We talk about:
- The impact of parentification (when you were the “responsible one” way too early)
- What happens when we don’t understand why we keep saying yes
- The pressure of navigating two cultures and conflicting expectations
- How to identify your own values—separate from what you were told to want
Plus, I’ll walk you through a visual tool to help you figure out what you truly want vs. what your family expects from you. If you’ve ever felt torn, overwhelmed, or stuck in a loop of obligation, this is for you.
📥 Want the visual?
Grab the visual here → https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/values
🎧 Listen now and take one step closer to clarity, confidence, and self-trust.
Episode Timeline:
00:00 Recap of The Repay Cycle™ (Part 1)
01:14 Understanding The Repay Cycle™
02:00 What’s Parentification Got to Do with It?
03:37 Balancing Cultural Expectations
06:52 Identifying Personal Values
09:54 Resource for you
Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/5
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Free Resources:
The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay
Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email
3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start
Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
Episode 5: Your Values or Your Family's? The Repay Cycle™ Part 2 of 3
Are you constantly giving, helping, and sacrificing—yet still feel guilty or that you're not doing enough? You’re not alone. In this episode, we go deeper into the Repay Cycle™ and explore why these emotional patterns run so deep for adults with immigrant parents.
We talk about:
- The impact of parentification (when you were the “responsible one” way too early)
- What happens when we don’t understand why we keep saying yes
- The pressure of navigating two cultures and conflicting expectations
- How to identify your own values—separate from what you were told to want
Plus, I’ll walk you through a visual tool to help you figure out what you truly want vs. what your family expects from you. If you’ve ever felt torn, overwhelmed, or stuck in a loop of obligation, this is for you.
📥 Want the visual?
Grab the visual here → https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/values
🎧 Listen now and take one step closer to clarity, confidence, and self-trust.
Episode Timeline:
00:00 Recap of The Repay Cycle™ (Part 1)
01:14 Understanding The Repay Cycle™
02:00 What’s Parentification Got to Do with It?
03:37 Balancing Cultural Expectations
06:52 Identifying Personal Values
09:54 Resource for you
Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/5
____
Free Resources:
The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay
Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email
3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start
Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
