Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be Why
- Author
- Allison Ly
- Published
- Tue 06 May 2025
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Episode 4 - Ever Feel Guilty No Matter What You Do? This Might Be Why
How Guilt & Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™
If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone.
In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background. This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.
We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships.
Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.
Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.
Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!
📥 Want the visual? Grab the recap and more of the Repay Cycle in a PDF here → heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay
Episode Timeline:
00:00 Intro of The Repay Cycle™
01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important
02:43 Phase 1
05:42 Phase 2
08:17 Phase 3
09:54 Phase 4
15:17 Breaking the Cycle
16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episode
Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4
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Free Resources:
The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF:
heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay
Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email
3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start
Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
How Guilt & Sacrifice Keep You Stuck: The Repay Cycle™
If you're an adult with immigrant parents and feel caught between two worlds, interactions and expectations, leading you to feel a lot of guilt —you're not alone.
In this episode, I break down The Repay Cycle™, a framework I created from my 10+ years working with adults with immigrant parents, and individuals with immigrant background. This is a cycle so many adults with immigrant parents, myself included, fall into without realizing it.
We explore how the cycle starts, how we are so driven to repay our parents in big and small ways, and its impact on us and how we show up in our relationships.
Learn what The Repay Cycle™ might looks like in your daily life and why it’s so important to recognize it. This is part one of a three-part series that will help you break the cycle and care for your family without losing yourself.
Next episode we will talk more about what to do, now that you’re aware of The Repay Cycle™.
Subscribe so you get the new episode sent directly to you!
📥 Want the visual? Grab the recap and more of the Repay Cycle in a PDF here → heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay
Episode Timeline:
00:00 Intro of The Repay Cycle™
01:13 Why The Repay Cycle™ is Important
02:43 Phase 1
05:42 Phase 2
08:17 Phase 3
09:54 Phase 4
15:17 Breaking the Cycle
16:40 What to Do About The Repay Cycle™ in next episode
Show notes and more at: https://heyallisonly.com/podcast/4
___
Free Resources:
The Repay Cycle Summary and PDF:
heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/repay
Sign up for Adults with Immigrant Parents Email Community: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/email
3 Easy Ways to Tackle Your Negative Self Talk:
https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/start
Get my Free Quickstart Guide to Help You Help Your Loved Ones: https://heyallisonly.myflodesk.com/resource
