Topping In The Apocalypse: Atopcalypse? Apocatop?

This week Tink and Gillian answer a listener question on the pressure on tops (those who tend to lead, or "do" the action in sexual engagement while bottoms might tend to submit to, allow or receive the action) to perform sexually, and how to handle it in relationships when a top is simply too pooped.  Or depressed.  Or understandably overwhelmed.  By the terrifying times.  We are all living in.  But especially those of us who don't fit the cookie-cutter societal expectation. 

In this episode we cover: ADHD-specific clothing destruction tactics, fighting the helplessness and dissociation that unhealthy power structures in our society would otherwise use to control us, having compassion and communication for and with ourselves and our partners when unmet safety needs in this scary world are overriding the parts of our brain that would otherwise govern leisure, connection and sex, and radical community care and interdependence as a path back to claiming desire and pleasure as part of our human experience.  NBD.

Resources:

5 Calls App

https://5calls.org/

Info on protesting safely

https://phr.org/our-work/resources/preparing-for-protecting-against-and-treating-tear-gas-and-other-chemical-irritant-exposure-a-protesters-guide/?ms=FY25_Evergreen_SearchAd_GoogleGrant&utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=Google&utm_term=Grant&utm_campaign=FY25_Grant&CID=701f40000018pCMAAY&ms=FY20_SEM_GoogleGrant&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=2076860150&gbraid=0AAAAADg6PAyEpBgoTXui277i1J__1NIjC&gclid=CjwKCAjwsZPDBhBWEiwADuO6y8LG9Twen7s_8igEAZrjx1awZy-wjXHxsMe60ArP3u89ghqgAT1aehoCQ2EQAvD_BwE

Melancholic depression as "anger turned inward"

https://neurolaunch.com/depression-is-anger-turned-inward/

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