Emotional Physics

In today's episode, Gillian and Rebekah respond to a listener question from someone feeling alarmed that they have been asked to go to couples therapy by a partner, worrying that this might be a puni…

This week Rebekah and Tink answer a listener question from someone looking for a way to end a relationship skillfully and kindly, especially after the vibe may have communicated long-term intent.  We…

This episode was originally released in March 2025, however Gillian basically just posted it wrong and it landed in people's feeds weird and as such it got missed by many.  We are off from recording …

Tink and Gilly are *back!* For now.  We actually will be away once more next week because summer is nuts but THIS WEEK we discuss codependent dynamics in relationships and what to do about them.  If …

In this week's episode, Tink and Gilly catch up on relationship experiences present and past.  Gilly shares her love for the relational freedom anthem of 2025, Lambrini Girls' song Cuntology 101, and…

Today's episode addresses a listener question on how to consider what kink might have to offer them, particularly after a shame-based history around sex from a strict religious upbringing.  We bring …

In this week's episode, we catch each other and you the listeners up on our travels over the last few weeks, including an exploration of the high concentration of ex-partners cluttering the grocery s…

We are both on vacation this week, so we took our cues from you, our listeners!  Before we got our producer and started recording for real, we spent about a year meeting each week, recording our conv…

This week Tink and Gillian answer a listener question on the pressure on tops (those who tend to lead, or "do" the action in sexual engagement while bottoms might tend to submit to, allow or receive …

This week Gillian and Tink answer a listener question about how to navigate disclosing things like mental health diagnoses, trauma histories, health information, or anything else that we might feel s…

Today's show answers a listener question specific to how monogamous coupled-up folks can best prepare for, talk about and have fun with threesomes!  We discuss how common this fantasy is, and how imp…

In this episode Tink and Gillian dive into one of our favorite topics which wierdly enough is actually grief!  But before you fear that this episode will be a huge downer, take heart because this epi…

In this episode, Tink and Gillian answer a question from a listener who is choosing a single life right now, but is wondering how to sit wisely with loneliness when it arises.  We discuss aloneness v…

In this episode Tink schools Gillian, and our listening community, on how on earth she seems to have such an easy time meeting cute sweeties in real life.  Gillian identifies some things that have te…

In this episode we address fighting, a big topic as far as both listener questions and our couples therapy practices.  We discuss ways that we actually are in favor of fighting at times, and note tha…

In this episode, we take a look at the theme of embarrassment in relationships, based on several listener questions on the topic including:

1. How can I get my partner to stop being so embarrassing?

2.…

In this week's episode we discuss the universally human and hurts-so-good phenomenon of pining after someone who is already our friend.  We have gotten several different questions on this topic and W…

In this episode we answer a listener question from someone who finds themselves avoiding their romantic longings out of fear that love might, once again, wreck the many awesome things going on in the…

In this episode Gillian and Tink answer a listener question about discussing within a partnership things about each others' family patterns that we don't want to repeat in our present-day dynamic.  R…

Today Tink and Gillian answer a listener question about how to determine when a relationship needs to end?  How do we figure this out for ourselves?  And when would we how would we ever reflect to cl…