Today, Cami and Niki welcome, once again, Claire Louise Travers, who runs the podcast, research hubs, and events for Poly Pages - an academic non-monogamous podcast and platform, focused on the texts which have shaped polyamorous community and culture.
In the first season, Claire talked about rich and insightful resources about the poly world. Today, we dive into poly breakups. We get to look at how non-monogamous and polyamorous people deal with multiple breakups and failed relationships, what can be learned from them, and why we all need a good set of friends who can view poly breakups as a new beginning. AND, it’s okay to be with yourself from time to time when you need to heal and recuperate, ‘hoe’ phase included of course! Just keep it healthy!
Listen Up:
00:00 Intro
01:21 Experience with polyamorous breakups
05:20 Handling a partner that is going through a breakup
10:03 Shifting relationships around
16:21 You are going to change during the relationship
22:55 Suppressing yourself to make something work
26:23 Deciding to have children is different for men and women
36:51 Some people would blame being polyamorous for the breakup
41:02 Operating your relationships from a place of fear
48:23 “We hoe phase from a place of healthiness.”
52:40 Have a primary partnership with yourself
01:00:13 For anyone going through a poly breakup…
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