Attachment Theory: How I Finally Felt Secure in Love

If you've ever felt like you're too much, not enough, or constantly guessing where you stand with someone, I’ve got you. In this episode I’m sharing the two biggest shifts that helped me go from flailing with anxiety in relationships to feeling insanely secure.

Attachment theory changed how I show up in love, friendships, and even how I treat the most important person in my life: myself. This is life changing information I wish my last handful of therapists taught me, but since they didn’t, someone has to step up and do it!

Tune in to hear my personal experience with what actually allowed me to create real safety in connection - beginning with myself.

Here are the Highlights:

(04:19) A short breakdown of Attachment Theory

(06:47) Exploring Attachment Styles in Adults 

(11:35) My personal attachment style and how it manifested in relationships 

(14:34) Friendship’s role in developing secure attachment

(27:42) Addressing unmet needs and co-dependency

(31:41) A unique “brand” of love that can’t be manufactured or replicate

Helpful Books on Attachment Theory:

• Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find-and Keep- Love by Amir Levine, MD and Rachel S.F. Heller, MA-

• Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships by Eli Hardwood, MA, LPC -

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