S2 EP15: In Love with the Idea: Romanticizing Potential in Relationships

In this episode, Mya and K unpack the all-too-relatable experience of falling for someone’s potential instead of who they truly are or what they show you. They dive deep into why so many of us stay in relationships, hoping for change, clinging to memories, promises, or the fantasy version of a partner, even when the reality might be full of red flags!

They break down the difference between loving someone and loving the idea of who they could be, and explore how this pattern is often rooted in trauma, people-pleasing, and societal messages that reward “fixing” others instead of choosing ourselves.

From the emotional toll of waiting on someone to change, to the signs that you might be romanticizing someone, Mya and K encourage you to never settle in a relationship that isn’t 100% for you. Plus, they offer listener check-in questions and advice for anyone who’s in the romanticizing pattern. You deserve love, not a never-ending project.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I in love with this person or the potential I see in them?” — this one’s for you.