Why Gay Men Stay Single

Earlier this year, I dated someone for 6 months.

I told my best friend about him after 3 months. He’d met my siblings after 5. On the face, it looked like things were progressing.

The quiet truth is that he had dumped twice and I was too insecure to leave it alone when everyone around me told him he wasn’t the one.

What I know about myself and so many others is that we, Black gay men, want to be in love. We want our person, but so many of us eligible bachelors are still in the dating pool.

So tonight, I want us to really ask ourselves, is it me, or it it niggas that’s the problem?

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* Introduction: Dating Criteria and Finding the Right Man (00:00:01)

* Welcome to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast (00:01:16)

* Church Announcements and Personal Updates (00:02:42)

* Wants vs. Needs in a Partner (00:04:53)

* Sex and Emotional Connection in Dating (00:16:08)

* Debate on the "Over-sexualization" of Black Men (00:20:23)

* Acknowledging Both Sexuality and Personhood (00:39:15)

* Conclusion: A Call for Broader Perspective (01:16:17)