Dear Black Gay Men Podcast

I believe that when we’re dating in our 30s, because we have something to lose, we try to safeguard our hearts and our lives from men that don’t mean for our good.

That’s why red flags have become so …

Earlier this year, I dated someone for 6 months.

I told my best friend about him after 3 months. He’d met my siblings after 5. On the face, it looked like things were progressing.

The quiet truth is th…

While I haven’t bottomed in a long time, most of my exes have been versatile.

The irony, though, is that most of the problems and successes we faced in relationships stemmed from everything aside from…

I am what the gworls would call a “soft top”.

I like to do all the traditionally masculine things, but I also am fully a butch queen. I haven’t been fucked in years and don’t have a whole lot of inter…

I like being naked. I like being naked with other men. And I like being naked when sex has nothing to do with it…but it can.

I call that being a nudist, but sometimes terms like kink, or nudist, or vo…

When I walk into any pride celebration, there are a couple things that connect me and most of the men present. Number 1: we’re all men and Number 2: we’re attracted to men. But what happens when only…

These couples uncover the secrets to successfully navigating the dating pool as I abruptly find myself back in it.

* 00:00:00 - Introduction: Three Rules for Finding a Man

* 00:01:11 - Applying the Les…

My inadequacies around relationship stemmed from times when my feelings were disregarded. I learned, having been on the receiving end of emotional trauma, that there are three basic agreements at wor…

This week Jai The Gentleman discusses:

How "coming out" goes way further than just telling people you're gay. It's an everyday process that starts with yourself.

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This week Jai The Gentleman discusses the last relationship he was in and how Black queer culture tried to destroy it. And how you can safeguard your relationship from the triggers that come from th…

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Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Sex in Relationships

00:57 Introduction to the Podcast

01:56 Church Announcements

04:21 Signs of a Healthy R…

A trip to Atlanta's nude club night, "Reveal," taught me that I'm probably better off single in this season of life.

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Chapters

00:00 Introduc…

00:00 Introduction: Post-Breakup Reflections

01:31 New Features: Substack and Live Shows

04:10 Church Announcements: Updates and Membership

04:42 Personal Story: Lessons from a Breakup

07:51 Dating Insig…

Playing With Fire

My eyes opened and my heart sank.

I was expecting a “Good Morning Jarrett”. The same text I’d received everyday for the past 3 months. But today there was no good morning greeting…

I spent 3 months on dating apps with 0 matches…

For a while I thought I wasn’t what Black guys desired, but really, it was a deeper key that I was missing: intention…both mine and theirs.

Dating is a c…

Let’s watch some Netflix…

I thought this was enough for quality time: you’re here; I’m here. We’re spending time so it has to be quality. Then I met Brandon.

He checked all the boxes of the non-negot…

It could all be so simple, but…

We’d rather make the dating process so hard. It boils down to ego keeping us from what we actually want.

Desire says, “I want a man.” But ego says “I’m independent.”

Desi…

Dating has gotten way too complicated, but…

It’s not the dating. It’s me. Underneath all the fluff, and heartache, and trauma all of us have endured, we all want the same thing: to be desired, to be w…

I feel like dating has gotten so complicated

Not that I’m old or anything, but there was a time when you saw someone at the club or out in gay spaces, walked over to him, asked his number. Probably j…

Thank GOD I didn't f*ck this man...

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