Dating on High Alert

You know that kind of relationship that feels like a rollercoaster? The butterflies, the intensity, the late-night spirals — we call it “chemistry,” but what if it’s actually chaos?

In this episode, I…

Sex is supposed to feel good — safe, connected, playful… right? But what happens when ADHD and trauma are in the room too?

In this episode, I get raw and real about how distraction, impulsivity, hyper…

Ever fallen in love in a week? Named your future kids on date three? Felt like you were spiraling before they even texted back? Same. This episode dives into why those of us with ADHD and trauma tend…

In this episode of Dating on High Alert, host Ilja Abbattista dives deep into a topic that’s essential for anyone navigating love, trauma, and the journey back to themselves: Boundaries.

Boundaries ar…

Overgiving Isn’t Love — It’s Self-Abandonment in Disguise

This episode explores how trauma can make us overgive in relationships — and how to stop. Ilja shares honest stories of self-abandonment, inti…

Are you spiralling over a text? Rethinking your last date? Replaying conversations in your head? In this episode, I share raw truths and real stories about overthinking, self-sabotage, and how we can…

Ever spiralled after sending a message? You're not crazy - you're wired for survival. In episode 2 of Dating On High Alert, I unpack the chaotic truth about overthinking, rejection sensitivity and th…

In this first episode, Ilja cracks open the myth of being “too much.” ADHD, trauma, emotional chaos — what if it was never about being wrong, but being unmet?
 A voice-note style truth-drop to start u…

Meet Ilja Abbattista and discover why dating with ADHD and trauma feels like emotional whiplash. This podcast is your truth-telling space to unravel it all.

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