38 | How to Repair After Conflict Pt. 1

Understanding and Regulating the Nervous System for Deeper Connection

In this episode of Date Night Confessions, hosts Zak and Michele introduce their self-paced private podcast course 'Triggered to Transform,' aimed at helping individuals understand and manage their reactions in relationships. The episode dives deep into the concept of the nervous system, explaining its two major pathways—parasympathetic and sympathetic—and how they impact our emotional and physical states. They discuss the four states of dysregulation: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and provide practical tips on how to recognize these states and regulate the nervous system effectively. Listeners are encouraged to create a 'regulation menu' to help manage stress and emotional triggers, promoting better connections within relationships. The episode emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, personal responsibility, and practical exercises to move from a state of disconnection to lasting emotional repair.

00:00 Introduction and Special Announcement

01:03 Welcome to Date Night Confessions

01:51 Catching Up with Zak and Michele

03:14 Listener Questions and Episode Theme

03:30 Understanding the Nervous System

10:10 Trauma and Its Impact

18:21 Window of Tolerance and Regulation

22:21 Dysregulated States and Modern Challenges

27:31 Craving a Next Level Relationship

28:47 Understanding Dysregulation in Conflict

29:34 Triggers and Modern Society's Impact

32:40 Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Responses

37:58 Healing and Reprogramming Childhood Patterns

42:34 Creating a Regulation Menu

49:05 Final Thoughts and Takeaways

51:53 Special Announcement: Triggered to Transform Course

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