Dad Starting Over

Why does it feel like the therapist is always on your case, even when your wife is the one shutting down emotionally?

In this video, I explain why anxious men—like many of you—end up being the focus i…

A lot of men joke about single women dying alone with 12 cats... but here’s the truth: that’s projection.

Men are facing a loneliness crisis. We isolate ourselves, chase careers across the country, le…

Most men carry shame. But they don’t talk about it—especially when it comes to sex.

They were raised to be "good boys," "nice guys," and "respectful partners"... but underneath that, many are dealing …

Dating after divorce is a minefield—and if you haven't been single since your twenties, you're stepping into a completely different world.

In this video, I break down what actually happens when men re…

Every man has felt it—that wild rush of lust, energy, and connection in the beginning of a relationship. You can’t stop thinking about her. You’re having sex like teenagers. It feels like you finally…

In this Dear DSO, a military husband opens up about his wife emotionally and physically checking out of their marriage. After three kids, mood swings, and now being on SSRIs for anxiety, she’s not th…

A 65-year-old woman wrote in with a gut-wrenching story. After 42 years of being married to a man who never listens, never remembers their anniversary, and always puts his own priorities first, she's…

In this Dear DSO submission, a man reaches out from the middle of an eight-year sexless marriage. He’s passive, anxious, and paralyzed by confusion—and he’s not alone. So many men fall into this trap…

Seventeen years of marriage. Three kids. Nice house. Dead bedroom for almost a decade.
 Then, during an argument, she looks him in the eye and says the words that’ll haunt him forever:
 “I’m just not a…

Why do so many women in long-term relationships cheat—and often with men who seem like total losers?

In this video, I break down the science behind two popular theories about female infidelity: the Ma…

So many men ask me the same question: "How do I know when I've done enough?" They’ve put in the work. They’ve read the books. They’ve hit the gym, led with strength, stayed patient—and still… she avo…

A husband finds out—after 12 years of marriage and two kids—that he was never his wife's first choice. After a night of drinks and a fight, she admitted she "settled" for him and still thinks about h…

In this Dear DSO episode, I respond to a man who saw the signs early on—but kept going. She told him who she was from the beginning. The problem? He didn’t listen.

We talk about the consequences of ig…

Today’s Dear DSO submission is from a neurodivergent man—he’s got ADHD, a lot of anxiety, and not much dating experience. He feels like he’s defective, like he’ll never figure out how to talk to wome…

Most men don’t see it coming—until their marriage is on life support.

One day she’s your best friend and lover… the next, she’s distant, irritable, and completely checked out. You think you did someth…

This one’s brutal. A 36-year-old man marries a 49-year-old woman who insisted they wait until marriage for sex. Two years in, he’s still never touched her. No sex. No intimacy. Nothing.

He’s confused,…

Mr. K wrote in with a story that’s, sadly, all too familiar. He blames himself for a relationship that was dysfunctional from day one. She showed no attraction. She weaponized sex. She even stopped s…

Have you ever looked back at a relationship and thought, “What the hell was that?”

You were loyal. Honest. Steady.
 She was chaos.

This happens all the time to autistic men—diagnosed or not. They end up…

In this Dear DSO submission, Richie asks a brutally honest question: What do you do when your wife is on SSRIs, has no sex drive, and has basically shut down in the bedroom?

He’s not alone. A lot of m…

In this episode of Dear DSO, a man named Mark writes in about the pain of being stuck in a long-term, sexless marriage. He’s done the work—therapy, self-improvement, romantic gestures—but his wife st…