Let Go of Heartbreak

Let Go of Heartbreak
In this conversation Alana Mbanza, Author of Love Sick: Leaning to Love and Let Go, talks about ways to not just let go of heartbreak but to find meaning in the experience and learn and grow from it. 
Through her correspondence with others who have shared their own experiences with heartbreak, Alana noticed several common thought patterns that kept people from healing at the end of a relationship and unable to see the higher purpose behind the experience.
Some common reasons that people have a hard time letting go of heartbreak are:
You are telling your self that he or she was the “one”By shifting your perspective and understanding that there is no “one” person who is “meant” for you is essential to releasing the relationship and healing. Gain the insight that the person was meant to teach you something that you needed to know or show you something about yourself that you needed to see. 
 
You are glamorizing the relationship.This makes it impossible to let go of heartbreak because you only remember the good times and forget the times when your needs and desires were not met. Instead take a balanced look at the relationship and ask yourself “what am I supposed to learn from this experience”. You may discover that the relationship taught you that you need someone who communicates well or that you need someone who has more time for you.  Seeing the lessons is a positive because you know going into your next relationship that this is something that you must have.
Although it is important to grieve the loss of the relationship, to fully let go of the heartbreak, it is important to be mindful of these two common thought patterns and consciously shift them to ones that allow you to learn and grow from the experience.