How to Spot a Project (Not a Partner) (Day 7) | UNSTUCK: Rewrite Your Love Story

🎧 DAY 7: How to Spot a Project (Not a Partner) | UNSTUCK: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story

🔥 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

It’s the third date, and he’s already unpacking his "complicated" ex, work struggles, and "just needs someone to believe in him." Your inner fixer perks up: "I can help him!" Spoiler: You can’t—and you shouldn’t. You’re not a rehab center for emotionally unavailable men.

In this no-nonsense episode of Unstuck: 30 Days to Rewrite Your Love Story, host Christy Holt (Former Pro at Attempting to Change People) drops the truth bomb: Falling for potential isn’t love—it’s a trauma bond in disguise. Healthy partners don’t need fixing. They show up ready to love you, not lean on you.

Time to stop dating projects and start choosing partners.

⏱️ WATCH/LISTEN ALONG

0:00 – "I Can Fix Him" Trap (Third-Date Red Flags)

0:43 – Empathy Hangover (Why You Fall for Broken People)

1:46 – Why We Fall for Projects Instead of Partners (The Trauma Bond Cycle)

2:41 – Healthy Partner Checklist (Emotional Availability + Consistency)

3:15 – Potential vs. Reality (Burn the List, Say "I’m Not a Rehab")

4:00 – Add to Your F*ck It List: "Fixing Broken People"

💬 KEY QUOTES (SHAREABLE AF)

"You’re not staying because of who he is. You’re staying because of who you think he could be. And that’s not love—it’s a trauma bond."

"Healthy partners don’t need fixing. They show up ready to love you, not lean on you."

"You are not a rehab center. You are a goddess—and goddesses don’t settle for fixer-uppers."

"Falling for potential is like buying a house for the blueprint. Live in the real thing."

(Tag @CoachChristyHolt if these hit home! 📲)

🔥 YOUR DAY 7 REBELLION: DITCH THE PROJECTS

1. AUDIT YOUR LAST 3 PARTNERS

📝 Write their names. Next to each, list:

Who you thought they could be

Who they actually were

🔍 Circle the patterns.

2. CEREMONIAL RELEASE

🔥 Burn the list (literally or metaphorically) while saying:"I am not a rehab center. I am ready for a partner, not a project."

3. INSTANT BOUNDARY BOOST

▶️ Blast Sorry Not Sorry by Demi Lovato: https://bit.ly/loverebel

💃 Dance like someone who’s done rebuilding broken people.

SHOW YOUR STANDARDS: 📸 Tag @CoachChristyHolt with your "I’m not a rehab center!" moment.

RESOURCES & LINKS

💻 PEOPLE-PLEASER’S PATH TO FREEDOM: Break the Fixer-Upper Cycle (Free resource!) https://bit.ly/ppptffreebie

🔜 NEXT EPISODE: Why Love Bombing Feels Like Oxygen (Spoiler: It’s Manipulation, Not Love.)

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