Why Understanding Attachment Theory & Relationship Cycles Changes Everything

Hosted by Dr. Rachel Orleck, Couples Therapist & Coach

Ever find yourself having the same argument on repeat? Or walking away from a conversation wondering, “How did we even get here?” You're not alone—and there’s a reason for that.

In this first episode of Coupled With…, we’re diving into:

• What attachment theory actually is (in everyday, real-life terms)
• Why conflict isn’t just about what you’re fighting about, but how you’re wired
• The pursuer–withdrawer dynamic that keeps couples stuck
• One powerful mindset shift to start breaking those frustrating patterns

Whether you’re anxiously overanalyzing every text or quietly shutting down when things get intense, this episode will help you start seeing your patterns—and your partner’s—with more clarity and compassion.

Because you don’t need perfect words or the “right” tone—you just need to understand what’s really going on underneath the surface.

Resources:

💛 Grab the free guide: How to Start a Hard Conversation

📌 Check out the Relationship Check-Up: personalized insights to help you shift your relationship dynamic

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