The Hidden Hurt Behind the Household Chore Fight

Let’s be honest—

You didn’t fall in love over spreadsheets and garbage duty.

But now?

You’re stuck in a cycle where the dishes feel like a personal betrayal, the laundry sparks arguments, and the unspoken resentment is starting to feel heavier than the mental load you’re carrying.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s really going on when couples fight about chores—and spoiler alert: it’s not about the towels.

We’ll dive into:

• Why “just ask for help” doesn’t work when your nervous system is in survival mode
• How your attachment style gets triggered by undone tasks
• What’s really happening in the blame-withdraw cycle that keeps repeating
• Why chore charts and Sunday planning meetings often backfire
• And how to move from resentment to real teamwork—without adding more to your to-do list

This episode isn’t about productivity.

It’s about partnership.

And it’s for anyone who’s ever looked at their partner and thought, “Why am I the only one who sees this mess?”

Take a deep breath. Let’s go there.

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