Perfectionism in Relationships—The Pressure to "Get It Right" & Why It Backfires

Hosted by Dr. Rachel Orleck, Couples Therapist & Coach

Do you find yourself overthinking every text before you send it? Or rehearsing exactly what to say so your partner doesn’t get upset—or so the conversation stays “calm”? That’s not just communication anxiety. That’s relationship perfectionism.

In this episode of Coupled With…, we’re talking about:

• Why perfectionism shows up in your relationship (especially if you’re thoughtful, responsible, or highly self-aware)
• How trying to “get it right” can actually make your partner feel more disconnected—not more supported
• The emotional cost of over-functioning in love
• A mindset shift to help you move from performance to presence

If you're tired of trying to say everything the right way, and you just want to feel more yourself in your relationship again—this episode will show you where to begin.

More Resources and Ways to Connect:

💛 Free guide: How to Start a Hard Conversation

💌 Free 7 Day Course to Break the Cycle of Conflict

📌 Relationship Check-Up: personalized insights to help you understand where you and your partner are getting stuck

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