It Started Before You Met Them: How Old Wounds Show Up in Love.

When your reaction feels too big for the moment—there’s probably a reason.

In this episode, we’re zooming in on a relationship pattern that so many high-functioning, emotionally intelligent people get stuck in: reacting to your partner like they’re someone from your past. Even when you know they’re not your mom, your ex, or the parent who never saw you clearly… your body responds like they are.

This isn’t just a mindset issue. It’s a nervous system loop.

And until you name the original pattern, you’ll keep following it—even with someone who’s kind, safe, and emotionally available.

In this episode, we’ll break down:

• Why your nervous system reacts to micro-triggers like abandonment, even when things seem fine
• How attachment wounds get activated without words—and what that actually feels like in your body
• What it means when you keep replaying the same dynamic, even in a totally different relationship
• The moment of choice before reactivity—and the one question that can interrupt the spiral
• A practical tool (Pause → Track → Name) that helps you move from echo to agency

You’re not too much. You’re responding exactly how your system was wired to protect you.

And now? You get to build a new map.

Ready to finally understand your patterns—and start rewiring them?

Join my free 7-day email course:

👉 https://www.drrachelorleck.com/break-the-cycle

This gentle, bite-sized series will help you start spotting the hidden dynamics that keep sabotaging connection—and show you what it actually means to heal from the inside out.