Breaking Free from the Reactivity Trap

Ever found yourself mid-argument thinking, “What am I even saying right now?”

You can feel your voice getting sharper, your heart pounding, the words flying out before you can catch them. And afterward? The shame. The self-blame. The fear you’ve done damage you can’t undo.

This episode is for you—the partner who reacts quickly, deeply, maybe loudly... and who hates that it keeps happening.

In this powerful solo episode, Dr. Rachel walks you through what’s actually going on when you lose it in a relationship, why it's more about protection than personality, and how you can begin to change the cycle without abandoning yourself in the process.

You’ll learn:

• Why reactivity isn’t a flaw—it’s a survival strategy wired into your nervous system
• How unresolved emotional injuries from the past hijack your present interactions
• What the reactivity cycle looks and feels like in real life (with a step-by-step breakdown)
• How to repair after a rupture in a way that fosters trust, not defensiveness
• 5 concrete steps you can start practicing today to catch yourself earlier and reconnect faster

This isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s about becoming more present, more honest, and more connected—to yourself, and to the people you love.

🔥 Ready to take this work deeper?

If this episode hit home, don’t miss my free 7-day email course:

“Break the Cycle: 7 Days to Stop the Same Fight and Rebuild Connection.”

In just a few minutes a day, you’ll learn how to:

• Spot the patterns keeping you stuck
• De-escalate conflict before it explodes
• Reconnect without over-explaining, shutting down, or walking on eggshells

It’s completely free—and it’s designed to help you shift the dynamic, even if your partner isn’t on board (yet).

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