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Coupled With...

If you’ve ever felt like your relationship should make more sense, you’re not alone—and you’re in the right place. Coupled With… is the podcast for driven, capable, and analytical humans who crave connection, but keep getting stuck in the same relationship patterns. Whether you're overthinking every conversation, caught in another conflict loop, or feeling undervalued despite all your effort—this show is here to help.

Join Dr. Rachel Orleck, a licensed psychologist and couples therapist, as she breaks down why relationships get messy (even when you’re trying your best), how perfectionism shows up in love, and what it really takes to feel seen, special, and important by your partner.

Through honest solo episodes, expert interviews, and zero “just communicate better” advice, Coupled With… gives you the clarity, tools, and insight to create a relationship that actually works for you.

Because connection doesn’t come from getting it perfect—it comes from getting real.

Subscribe and tune in to new episodes every Monday!

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Average duration
26 minutes
Episodes
24
Years Active
2025
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You Don’t Want to Be Right—You Want to Be Understood

You Don’t Want to Be Right—You Want to Be Understood

Winning the argument feels good for about two seconds—until the silence sets in and you realize you’re sitting next to someone who feels even further away. In this episode of Coupled With…, Dr. Rache…

00:19:18  |   Mon 08 Sep 2025
Debunking the Perfect-Partner Myth in Love

Debunking the Perfect-Partner Myth in Love

We’ve all been sold the same fantasy: if you just find the right person — someone “perfect” — everything will finally feel easy. No more spirals, no more fights that last for days, no more wondering …

00:22:12  |   Mon 01 Sep 2025
Why You Feel Rejected in Bed: Understanding Sexual and Emotional Cycles

Why You Feel Rejected in Bed: Understanding Sexual and Emotional Cycles

If you’ve ever wondered why you and your partner seem to be on completely different wavelengths when it comes to sex and intimacy—you’re not alone.

In this episode of Coupled With…, I sit down with De…

00:35:49  |   Mon 25 Aug 2025
Why You Keep Chasing (or Shutting Down): The Real Cause of the Pursue–Withdraw Cycle

Why You Keep Chasing (or Shutting Down): The Real Cause of the Pursue–Withdraw Cycle

🎙️ Episode Summary

You’re trying to connect—they’re shutting down. Or maybe it’s the other way around. Either way, you end up in the same exhausting loop: one of you pursues, the other withdraws, and …

00:20:00  |   Mon 18 Aug 2025
When you know better, but still spiral

When you know better, but still spiral

You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books, been to therapy, and can name your patterns in your sleep. So why does it still feel like you lose yourself after every argument?

This episode is for the h…

00:20:18  |   Mon 11 Aug 2025
When Silence Hurts: The Hidden Impact of the Silent Treatment

When Silence Hurts: The Hidden Impact of the Silent Treatment

Silence isn’t always golden—especially in relationships. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of the silent treatment, you know it doesn’t feel like space. It feels like rejection, punishment, or…

00:20:10  |   Mon 04 Aug 2025
It Started Before You Met Them: How Old Wounds Show Up in Love.

It Started Before You Met Them: How Old Wounds Show Up in Love.

When your reaction feels too big for the moment—there’s probably a reason.

In this episode, we’re zooming in on a relationship pattern that so many high-functioning, emotionally intelligent people get…

00:17:36  |   Mon 28 Jul 2025
The loneliness no one talks about

The loneliness no one talks about

You’re not sleeping in separate bedrooms.

You’re not in constant conflict.

You still say “I love you.”

So why do you feel lonelier with your partner than when you’re alone?

This kind of disconnection doe…

00:19:04  |   Mon 21 Jul 2025
Knowing Isn’t Enough: Why Insight Won’t Save Your Relationship

Knowing Isn’t Enough: Why Insight Won’t Save Your Relationship

You’ve read the books. You know your attachment style. You understand your patterns.

So why are you still having the same argument on repeat?

In this episode of Coupled With…, we’re talking about the f…

00:21:04  |   Mon 14 Jul 2025
Why Male Vulnerability Feels Like a Trap

Why Male Vulnerability Feels Like a Trap

In this powerful episode, I’m joined by therapist Edan Zebooloon, LMHC, for an honest, eye-opening conversation about male vulnerability—why it’s so hard, why it matters, and what often gets in the w…

00:34:37  |   Mon 07 Jul 2025
Finding Safety Without Shutting Down

Finding Safety Without Shutting Down

What do you do when you’re not the one who lashes out… but the one who shuts down?

When your partner’s emotions take over—and your voice disappears?

This episode is for the partners who hold it all tog…

00:25:27  |   Mon 30 Jun 2025
The Hidden Hurt Behind the Household Chore Fight

The Hidden Hurt Behind the Household Chore Fight

Let’s be honest—

You didn’t fall in love over spreadsheets and garbage duty.

But now?

You’re stuck in a cycle where the dishes feel like a personal betrayal, the laundry sparks arguments, and the unspok…

00:25:08  |   Mon 23 Jun 2025
Breaking Free from the Reactivity Trap

Breaking Free from the Reactivity Trap

Ever found yourself mid-argument thinking, “What am I even saying right now?”

You can feel your voice getting sharper, your heart pounding, the words flying out before you can catch them. And afterwar…

00:30:37  |   Mon 16 Jun 2025
Why Saying Sorry Isn’t Enough: The Real Art of Repair in Relationships

Why Saying Sorry Isn’t Enough: The Real Art of Repair in Relationships

Host: Dr. Rachel Orleck

Guest: Shannon McCune, LMHC

What makes a real apology land? Why do some repair attempts make things worse, not better? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Orleck is joined by therapist …

00:41:31  |   Mon 09 Jun 2025
When You’re the One Who’s Been Hurt: Learning to Love Without Losing Yourself

When You’re the One Who’s Been Hurt: Learning to Love Without Losing Yourself

You want love. You have love.

But sometimes… closeness still feels like a threat.

You shut down. You lash out. You say you’re fine—but inside, your system is bracing for the worst.

This episode is for t…

00:24:53  |   Mon 02 Jun 2025
Loving Someone Who’s Been Hurt: Navigating Relationships After Relational Trauma

Loving Someone Who’s Been Hurt: Navigating Relationships After Relational Trauma

When you love someone with relational trauma—someone who's been abandoned, betrayed, or emotionally neglected—it can feel like you're always walking a tightrope. You're trying to be patient, consiste…

00:38:26  |   Mon 26 May 2025
Holding Space for the Heartbreak: Navigating Pregnancy Loss & Infertility

Holding Space for the Heartbreak: Navigating Pregnancy Loss & Infertility

Holding Space for the Heartbreak: Navigating Pregnancy Loss & Infertility

💬 Episode Summary:

Pregnancy loss and infertility are heartbreaking—and often invisible—realities that deeply affect couples on…

00:40:04  |   Mon 19 May 2025
Why We Blame — and How to Break the Cycle for Deeper Connection

Why We Blame — and How to Break the Cycle for Deeper Connection

Blame feels powerful in the moment.

It gives us a sense of control, a sense of righteousness — but it also creates the very disconnection we’re trying to avoid.

In this episode, we’re taking a brutally…

00:38:10  |   Mon 12 May 2025
Stronger Together: How Couples Can Navigate Infertility as a Team

Stronger Together: How Couples Can Navigate Infertility as a Team

Host: Dr. Rachel Orleck

Guest: Alicia Webber, Reproductive and Perinatal Therapist

Episode Summary:

Infertility can feel like one of the most isolating experiences a couple can face — but it doesn’t hav…

00:37:58  |   Mon 05 May 2025
Why You Lose It in Love: The Truth About Self-Regulation and Connection

Why You Lose It in Love: The Truth About Self-Regulation and Connection

Why You Lose It in Love: The Truth About Self-Regulation and Connection

Learn how attachment, nervous system wiring, and co-regulation shape your relationship dynamic.

Why do we lose it when we care th…

00:19:15  |   Mon 28 Apr 2025
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