How The Destruction Of Sexual Intimacy Is Destroying Society And Relationships

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Please note that today's episode does discuss (not in detail) rape and sexual abuse at certain parts.

Today, I sit down with Gao Motsemme — a trauma healer, psychic surgeon, and inner child guide — to unpack the emotional, spiritual, and energetic impact of toxic relationships, wounded sexuality, and trauma. 

Ms. Motsemme begins with a greeting in her native Botswanan language that calls us to presence and awareness, asking the powerful question: “What are you agreeing to?” Her story spans continents, trauma, divorce, and spiritual awakening.

We get into the dangerous normalization of toxic sex and hookup culture, and the false belief that intimacy can be separated from emotion. Ms. Motsemme explains how casual sex, angry sex, and even makeup sex often act as energetic dumping grounds for unprocessed pain — especially for women. She breaks down how the disconnection between men’s hearts and their sexual energy, combined with women’s shame around desire, leads to generational trauma, self-betrayal, and the destruction of intimacy.

We also explore how past sexual abuse — whether violent, subtle, or systemic — leaves unhealed wounds that affect everything from finances to parenting. Ms. Motsemme shares how trauma shows up in the body, how to recognize and release energetic ties from past partners, and why inner child healing is the missing piece in many recovery journeys. This conversation is raw, real, and urgent — especially in a world where children are exposed to porn at just eight years old, families are torn apart by ego-driven marriages, and emotional intimacy is often mistaken for weakness.

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