Are You Living Your Life Or Someone Else's—From Conformity Into Independent Thinking

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Today, I sit down with Arnold Beekes, a brain fitness trainer helping people escape conformity and rediscover who they truly are. Mr. Beekes and I get into the psychological impacts of growing up under strict parental, military, or societal expectations—something I personally experienced being raised by a police officer father. From short haircuts and forced career paths to the pressure of "fitting in" with church, school, or military standards, we explore how conformity shapes our lives and limits our potential.

Mr. Beekes shares his powerful story of growing up under a military father in the Netherlands and how his entire life was decided for him—what to study, where to go, who to be. It wasn’t until his 40s, after a career crisis and the help of a coach, that he realized he had never been asked what he truly wanted. That moment led to the birth of Brain Fitness, a coaching platform designed to help others make the shift from living someone else's life to defining their own.

We also discuss the role of social media in reinforcing conformity, the reward system of external validation, and how many people—especially veterans or young adults—are pressured to follow predetermined life paths. Mr. Beekes breaks down the difference between external and internal validation, and how his two training programs help people either break free or take flight into extraordinary impact. If you’ve ever felt like you're living for someone else’s approval or afraid to choose your own direction, this episode is for you.

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