Ep 3. 3 Anti-Confidence Red Flags and How To Spot Them

CC introduces Anti-Confidence Red Flags (ACRFs), as she reveals the 3 major ACRFs that hold us back from becoming our most confident selves:

1. This week’s Moody Mic Drop, inspired by one of the greatest chick flicks of all time
2. Introduction to Anti-Confidence Red Flags and why they’re important for you to be aware of
3. ACRF #1 about that ‘hater’ voice in our head and how CC learned to quiet hers
4. ACRF #2 discusses why putting our self-worth in the hands of others can be detrimental to our mental health and how you can flip it
5. ACRF #3 focuses on comparison — why we naturally compare ourselves as humans and how you can develop a healthy relationship with comparing so that it’s ultimately a value add to your life

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Locked ‘Me, Myself & I’ Note Overview - To start making real change, we gotta put in some work. This starts with creating your SAFE SPACE. Doing something from you and for you that's quick, simple, efficient, and accessible. Go ahead and create a locked note on your phone and name it whatever you want - CC’s note is named "Lil CC & More”. She originally used it to chat with her inner child/past self and now it's turned into her full time journal. Use your own locked note to safely connect with yourself and for CMWCC Pro-Tips!

Pro-Tip #3 - In your ‘Me, Myself & I’ note, jot down 3 ‘anti-confidence red flags’ that you believe exist in your life today. If there are more, feel free to make the list as long as you want. Next to each ACRF, make an arrow (dash plus right carrot ->) where you’ll write the opposite of the ACRF next to it. The opposite of the ACRF is an indicator of your own authenticity hiding behind it and reveals what you should challenge yourself to move towards.

CC EXAMPLE: “ACRF: Spending time obsessing about missing out on potentially meeting a future partner since I don’t feel like going out, even though I’m given the opportunity to, and that’s rare sometimes.” -> “Opposite: I am NOT taking any risks by not going out because what I truly want is to stay in and REST, which will ultimately make me happier than doing the whole going out thing tonight.”

As a reminder, ACRFs are our own personal confidence building journey deal breakers — they’re what our norms and conditioning has led us to personally hold ourselves back from becoming confident. You know it’s an ACRF when you hear that voice in your head that has nothing but bad things to say. Or you hold onto triggering comments that come from other people and let it deplete your sense of self worth. Or you find yourself beating yourself up when comparing your vibes to others, thinking that yours are worse than theirs. Start becoming curious about it and where ACRFs come up in your everyday life. And outside of this exercise, use your ‘Me, Myself & I’ note as a tool to write ACRFs down whenever you recognize they’re happening.

The goal with this pro tip is that you will eventually start to notice when ACRFs appear in your everyday life and start working towards flipping them to uncover your true authenticity. This is key to learning how to stop them and understanding the origin of where they came from. It’s not you, it’s the conditioning and OG hardwiring of your brain. And with time, you’ll eventually start naturally giving yourself the unconditional love and support that you need to thrive today!

P.S. Here are directions for how to create a locked note on iPhone and Android. 

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