Comin' Out Swinging

In this episode, we discuss the realities of performance enhancers in the lifestyle. We address common misconceptions about erectile dysfunction, the impact of environment on performance, and the imp…

We love that you’re excited to be at the sex club. We really do. But if you're in the play area talking about your colonoscopy or your kids’ soccer schedule while people are trying to fuck—you’re doi…

Think you’re not hot enough for the lifestyle? Too average? Too old? Not what you think people are looking for? Think again.

In this episode, we unpack how swinging isn't about being the hottest perso…

It’s not always cheating, abuse, or betrayal that ends relationships. 

Sometimes it’s boredom, avoidance, and pretending everything's fine.

This episode is about the normal-looking relationships fallin…

Are humans really meant to be with one person forever?

Or is monogamy just a cultural script we’ve all been handed—whether it fits or not?

In this episode, we delve into the biology, traditions, and un…

When we first got into swinging, we had our rules locked in: couples only, same room only, always together.

That lasted… maybe two encounters.

In this episode, we share how our rules and boundaries evo…

A lot of couples may try swinging once or for a short period of time. So what made us keep going—and keep growing—for 22 years?

In this episode, we share the real reasons we stayed in the lifestyle, f…

In today’s episode, we’re diving into the wrong reasons to get into the lifestyle.

We’ll share:

• Why swinging is not therapy
• A story about a female half of a couple who got pushed into it before she was …

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the differences between swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and everything in between.

We’ll talk about:

• Why we’re not poly, and never will be
• The show Poly…

In today’s episode, we’re sharing a real story from a night at our local club.

We met a couple who seemed like seasoned pros—but they were holding onto a fantasy that had never actually happened… unti…

In this episode, we’re going back to our first time.

We’ll tell you:

• How Vic shocked Dave by signing up for an AFF account
• The couple we met from the next town over
• What really went down that night in ou…

In this episode, we’re getting real about how we got into the lifestyle.

We weren’t struggling. We weren’t bored.

Our sex life was already damn good—maybe too good.

We’ll talk about:

• How curiosity evolve…

In this episode, we’re kicking things off by sharing why we’re finally stepping up to the mic after 22 years in the lifestyle.

We’ll talk about:

• The couple that mentored us early on and showed us how t…

Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy.

It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships.

We’re Victoria and Dave Arena: together nearly 30 years, married over 24, and swinging for more than …