#123 Disorganized Attachment – The Push-Pull Chaos

Do you ever find yourself craving closeness one moment and pulling away the next? You’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into disorganized attachment — a pattern of connection rooted in the paradox of both desiring and fearing intimacy.

You’ll learn:

• What disorganized attachment is and how it develops
  

• The emotional, behavioral, and physiological signs to look for
  

• Why betrayal trauma can activate this attachment style in adult relationships
  

• The nervous system loop that drives the push–pull dynamic
  

• Practical tools to build secure self-attachment first — and then healthier, safer relational attachment
  

We’ll explore simple yet powerful ways to:

• Name and interrupt old patterns in the moment
  

• Regulate your body before responding
  

• Offer yourself the safety and comfort you long for from others
  

• Communicate needs clearly instead of testing
  

• Repair after conflict and slowly rebuild trust in vulnerability
  

Whether you’ve experienced betrayal trauma, childhood relational wounds, or simply want to understand your own patterns more deeply, this conversation will help you start moving from fear and confusion toward connection and security.

Thank you for tuning in!

Courage to Thrive Intensive – October 14-17, 2025 | Spanish Fork, UT

Are you ready to begin healing from betrayal and reclaim your life? Join us for the Courage to Thrive Intensive, a transformative four-day experience designed to help women process trauma, set healthy boundaries, and rebuild trust in themselves and their relationships. Through a mix of somatic healing, practical tools, group support, and expert guidance, you’ll gain clarity, release what’s holding you back, and step into a life of hope, strength, and purpose.

Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or looking to deepen it, this intensive provides a safe and nurturing space to connect, grow, and thrive. Reach out to the Choose Recovery Services office by calling or texting (702) 277-9145. Or email them at [email protected] for more information. 

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

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Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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