Are You Being Selfish Without Realizing It? These Everyday Habits Say Yes

In this episode, Dr. Kat explores the small, everyday habits that might be undermining your relationships. From how you handle the grocery cart to how you react when someone sets a boundary, these “invisible” behaviors can silently erode trust and connection.

If you’ve ever been called inconsiderate, controlling, or self-centered — or if you’ve felt like someone else was acting that way toward you — this conversation will give you the language, insight, and tools to see the behavior more clearly and shift it.

Topics include:

• The psychology behind subtle selfishness
• The emotional impact of thoughtless routines
• How to build self-awareness without shame
• What “emotional maturity” actually looks like in daily life

Dr. Kat helps you rethink the difference between intent and impact — and why personal growth starts with noticing what you didn’t before.

Episode Chapters:

00:00 – Intro: The Invisible Ways We’re Selfish
Dr. Kat opens with how small behaviors reveal unconscious selfishness.

00:57 – Example 1: The Grocery Cart Test
A simple act shows how much we expect others to clean up after us.

04:40 – Example 2: Changing Lanes
How thoughtless driving reflects deeper disregard for others.

07:03 – Example 3: Cap Off the Toothpaste
Daily habits that signal “my comfort matters more than yours.”

09:57 – Example 4: Parking Spots
What your parking choices say about your awareness of others.

11:19 – Personal Story: Taking Responsibility
Kat shares how owning her actions shifted a dynamic in real time.

13:59 – Take Opportunities to Be Kind
A call to break selfish patterns through small, mindful kindness.

18:22 – Reach Out at ChatWithDrKat.com
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