#98 | I’m Getting Divorced... Now What? | Brenda Bridges

Author: The 4 Habits
Published: Fri 08 Aug 2025
Episode Link: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the4habits/episodes/98--Im-Getting-Divorced----Now-What---Brenda-Bridges-e36hhkb

Divorce recovery, co-parenting tips, and emotional resilience after separation — this raw and powerful episode with Certified Divorce Coach Brenda Bridges is for anyone asking: “How do I get through this without wrecking the kids, my finances, or myself?”

When Brenda heard the words “I want a divorce,” everything unravelled. $120,000 later, with no co-parenting relationship and deep emotional fallout, she realised: There has to be a better way.

In this honest and deeply practical conversation, Brenda shares:

The #1 mindset shift to go from blame to collaboration
Why “think logically, not emotionally” is harmful advice
How to protect your children from the emotional wreckage
Her Values-Based Compass for making calm, values-led decisions
Real tools for professionals juggling custody, conflict, and careers

Whether you’re navigating divorce, supporting someone who is, or simply want to handle conflict better, this episode offers hope, strategy, and transformation.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS (TIMESTAMPS)

00:00 – The emotional punch of “Oh S#*! I’m getting divorced”

04:10 – Brenda’s $120,000 divorce: what went wrong

07:45 – Why logic-based advice fails emotionally-driven decisions

12:20 – How not being prepared broke her co-parenting future

15:00 – A tool for post-divorce decisions: The Values-Based Compass

18:45 – How children absorb the conflict we try to hide

22:10 – The moment Brenda decided: “There has to be a better way”

26:30 – Real client story: from betrayal to a breakthrough

31:15 – What professionals juggling custody and careers need to hear

36:00 – The legacy Brenda wants to leave in every family law court

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