#88 | Divorce Wasn’t the Answer: One Woman’s Wake-Up Call to Spare the Kids | Pamela Henry

💔 Is divorce really the best way forward—or just the most immediate escape?

In this raw and revealing episode of The 4 Habits Podcast, we’re joined by Pamela Henry, author of Soul Custody: Sparing Children from Divorce. A parenting educator and divorced mother of three, Pamela bravely shares the emotional reckoning that led her to question the decision she once believed was right.

Together with Dr. Andrea and Jon, Pamela unpacks the unseen wounds divorce leaves on children—even in amicable situations—and how unhealed trauma can quietly destroy relationships from the inside out.

This isn’t a judgmental take—it’s a compassionate conversation for anyone who wants to protect their kids, explore alternatives to separation, or simply understand what’s at stake when marriages fall apart.

🕒 Episode Highlights (Timestamps):

00:00 – Why we need this conversation: the regrets no one talks about

02:17 – “Soul Custody”: what it means and why Pamela wrote this book

04:38 – Repeating her parents’ divorce legacy—without knowing it

07:06 – Escaping pain through emotional affairs

10:53 – The study that shocked her: divorce can shorten a child’s life

13:38 – “We were a good couple… so why did I leave?”

16:00 – Why even ideal custody arrangements don’t protect kids from trauma

20:12 – The top 5 regrets most divorced parents face

23:45 – Could separation have been enough?

26:30 – A confession: “I did the opposite of the 4 Habits”

31:10 – Healing starts with truth—even the hard ones

35:12 – What saved her: faith, reflection, and a second chance

38:28 – Her message for others on the brink of walking away

🚀 Ready to Go Further? Here’s What to Do Next:

A) Make It Personal – Connect with Pamela Henry:

– Visit her website: https://www.soul-custody.com

– Find her on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pamela-henry-0aab2382/

– Email her: [email protected]

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