Ep 135: When it's Happening For You

I was with a group of friends, when one of them approached me and said “Your daughter just said something that blew my mind. She said that you told her that when she has a crush on someone, it’s just for her.” 

“Yes,” I said, “I sure did tell her that- don’t you agree?”

“Well I’ve never thought of it like this. She said that you told her that she can just have the feeling of a crush on someone, and she doesn’t have to tell the person, because it’s actually none of their business! And that when she felt the feeling of a crush on someone she doesn’t ever have to tell them or anyone else, she doesn’t ever have to act on it in any way, and it doesn't mean anything about her or the other person except that some part of her really likes some part of them…so there’s never a problem with having a crush, it’s always a positive thing!”  

“You told her that her crush on them is not FOR them. It’s for HER.” 

She looked at me with wide eyes, and the other adults standing around us started saying how much they loved this idea. 

“And”, she said, “I just thought about how much I wish someone had explained it to me like that when I was younger, and how different my experience of my own life would have been back then if I thought my crushes were for me. And how that would be true of other things too. That if I knew they were happening for me, it would all be different.” 

And the adults standing around us all nodded in agreement, and shared their own stories. 

Our crushes are not the only thing happening for us. Every single other feeling we have about someone else is really and truly just for us too. And each thing that happens in our life is only for us, when we see it that way. 

In today’s episode you’re learn: 

• One way to speed the process of accepting life’s challenges and seeing the end value in them right away 
• A single sentence to help ground you in the perspective that all your feelings are truly just for you, and to help you let go of holding others accountable for them
• Why unconditional love is always available and better for our health on multiple levels 
• The single thing that’s necessary in order to turn negative feelings around and convert them to love 
• A tool that can be used for two separate uses, that helps every time

Mentioned on this episode: 

• The practice 
• Boundaries baby 
• Ram Das 

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