12: Do the Opposite

Sometimes the way forward involves doing the opposite of what you want to do. Discover how this practice might be the key to breaking free from destructive patterns and embracing lasting change. 

Learn how chasing fear and leaning into discomfort can accelerate your recovery and personal growth, empowering you to take bold steps towards a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Takeaways

• Change occurs in six stages

  
  



• Doing the opposite of what you think you should do can be transformative.

  
  



• True change begins when you can no longer tolerate your current situation.

  
  



• Challenging your perceived limits can reveal untapped potential.

  
  

Chapters

• 01:02 The Simplified Advice: Do the Opposite

  
  



• 01:38 Understanding the Development Stage

  
  



• 04:27 The Crisis and Decision Stage

  
  



• 06:51 The Shock Stage

  
  



• 07:29 The Grief Stage

  
  



• 07:56 Repair and Growth Stages

  
  



• 09:31 Chase the Fear

  
  

Don’t Miss Out!

• In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.
  

  
  



• Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

  
  

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

  
  



• Schedule a complimentary consultation with Luke here.

  
  



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Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.
  

  
  



• Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
  

  
  

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.
  

  
  



• Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

  
  

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

  
  

• Healing Hearts - This group is for couples seeking healing after betrayal. We also have a NEW self-paced, 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

  
  

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!
  

  
  



• Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.
  

  
  



• Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.
  

  
  



• Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.

  
  

Learn more and register for courses at chooserecoveryservices.com