Caring for Women who Struggle with Porn

What does helping women who struggle with porn look like? What can Christians, especially Christian leaders, do? Dr. Joy Skarka joins Dr. Kay Daigle to share her personal experience and knowledge to help Christians understand how to care well for women caught up in porn. Joy provides a wealth of information and practical suggestions for both Christian women who influence or lead other women and also parents who desire to protect their children. Helping women who struggle with porn is essential to loving our neighbors.



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Feel free to contact BOW at [email protected].  Joy has previously joined BOW to discuss Recognizing Rape Culture which is available as both a video and podcast episode.





Podcast Topics

0:31 Introducing Joy Skarka and her ministry

1:54 Joy’s story

3:40 A growing problem for women

6:03 How Christian women deal with this struggle

7:22 How porn impacts women

9:15 How should leaders begin conversations on this topic?

14:41 Preparing in advance to help someone

16:09 Helpful resources for parents

18:51 Resources for adults

19:19 How the struggle is different for men & women

21:59 Shame from watching porn

23:00 Discipling those caught up in porn

29:45 Recovery is a journey

30:32 Understand God’s design for sexuality

31:52 Any woman can help another woman

33:31 What resources does your ministry offer?

Joy Skarka’s Suggested Resources:







Joy Skarka, Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy

SHE Recovery

Sexual Discipleship

Authentic Intimacy resources on freedom from sexual sin

Pure Desire Ministries

Curt Thompson, Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves



Websites with Resources For Parents:



Birds & Bees

Defend Young Minds







TranscriptKay >> Welcome to the Beyond Ordinary Women Ministries podcast and video series. Today, our special guest is Dr. Joy Skarka, who is on the Authentic Intimacy Team. She has been doing that since 2020 and she has built there a transformational ministry for women dealing with sexual shame and pornography. So welcome, Joy. We are so delighted that you were able to join us.



Joy >> Oh, thank you, Kay. I just love the resources that you're creating, and I'm glad to be here.



Kay >> Oh, thank you so much. Joy previously has joined us for a podcast and video on rape culture. So if you missed that, you might want to look back for that. Today, though, we are talking about caring for women struggling with porn. And Joy actually has a book coming out about that. It is going to be called Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy. When does that book come out, Joy?



Joy >> Yes, this July, July 2024. How come, Kay, we always get the hard topics on these podcasts, right?



Kay >> Yes.



Joy >> These are some hard topics that we're covering.



Kay >> It really is. And I really wanted to start really by talking about how in the world you got involved in ministering to women who struggle with porn.



Joy >> Right. It's not something people normally raise their hand and volunteer and say, hey, I want to talk about porn and helping women.



Joy >> You don't see a lot of women talking about it. So I'd love to just share a little bit of my story. And I think to sum it all up, God, took my pain point and made it my passion. He really just brought me to this place where I just had this burning desire to help other women because I couldn't find that help. And so flash back,