E85:Kink vs Fetish

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In this episode, I dive into one of the questions I hear all the time: what’s the difference between a kink and a fetish? These two words get thrown around a lot, but they aren’t the same thing and understanding the difference can change how we see ourselves and our sex lives.

I share my own experience as someone who needs BDSM in my life to feel whole and authentic, but who can still enjoy and orgasm through vanilla sex. For me, kink is the language of my desire not always required for climax, but absolutely essential for fulfillment.

We’ll also look at how fetish has been understood historically, why it was once pathologized, and how modern sex-positive approaches view it today. Along the way, I’ll reflect on how kink expands pleasure, how fetish sometimes replaces it, and why neither is something to be ashamed of.

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