002 Motherhood burnout: Invisible labor & entitled kids w/ Sam Kelly

In this episode, Aria Johnson interviews Sam Kelly, a therapist turned feminist coach for mothers, about getting kids to help around the house without nagging them.

Sam shares her secret sauce, which involves shifting the narrative around household responsibilities and empowering children to be proactive contributors. She emphasizes the importance of teaching kids to notice what needs to be done and providing age-appropriate cleaning skills. Sam also discusses the significance of having conversations with children about bigger concepts like patriarchal messaging and burnout. The episode concludes with a call to share Sam's message with every parent.

This conversation explores the challenges of motherhood burnout and the impact of the patriarchal society on women's mental load. It emphasizes the need for support and the importance of asking for help. The conversation also delves into the role of men in household responsibilities and the concept of equality and empowerment in motherhood. It highlights the emotional labor of motherhood and its impact on women's health.

The conversation provides strategies for teaching children household responsibilities and shares the personal journey and transformation of the speaker. It concludes with information about the course and additional techniques for dealing with resistance from teens.

Takeaways

• Shifting the responsibility of household tasks from the mother to the entire family is crucial for preventing burnout and creating an equitable partnership.
• Teaching kids to notice what needs to be done and providing age-appropriate cleaning skills empowers them to be proactive contributors in the home.
• Having conversations with children about bigger concepts like patriarchal messaging and burnout helps them understand their role in breaking the cycle of motherhood burnout.
• Spreading the message of empowering kids to help around the house without nagging is essential for creating a more equitable and balanced society. Motherhood burnout is not the fault of individual women, but a result of the patriarchal society and the expectations placed on them.
• Asking for help and seeking support is crucial in breaking the cycle of motherhood burnout.
• Men should take an active role in household responsibilities to create equality and alleviate the mental load on women.
• Empowerment in motherhood comes from recognizing and addressing the emotional labor involved.
• Teaching children household responsibilities from a young age can help alleviate the mental load on mothers.
• Change and transformation are possible with the right tools and mindset.