Jesus comes over to dinner and drops some woes on your head. But you deserve it. You have totally missed the point of His relationship with you. You made the classic external vs. internal error. Jesus calls you to fix the internal, for His love, and then fix the outside.
OK, so I get the interior right. How can I enact the right internal relationship? Find a burden. Use a finger to help. Just one finger. Listen to find yourself in the weight room of life.