PODCAST EP.5: How WORKING & Doing Anything Because You "Have" to, is KILLING You. Tiktok Live

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How WORKING & Doing Anything Because You "Have" to, is KILLING You.  Tiktok Live

This video explores the idea that forcing myself to do things—especially work—is detrimental to my well-being and can lead to emotional and physical exhaustion (0:00). I share personal experiences of working draining jobs and feeling a lack of meaning, even leading to autoimmune disorders (2:27, 3:03).

Key points I discuss include:
 The Problem with Forced Work: I emphasize that work done out of obligation, rather than enjoyment, drains energy and removes joy (1:50, 7:31). I contrast this with activities done out of love and gratitude, which are energizing (3:53, 5:16).
The Need for Meaning and Rest: Drawing from insights I’ve gotten—even from AI—I highlight how people need more meaning in their lives and adequate rest (0:48, 16:00). Constantly being in "fight or flight" mode because of feeling unsafe or pressured to perform leads to stress and health issues (16:40).
The Importance of Authenticity and Truth: I talk about how suppressing feelings, faking who I am, and conforming to societal expectations has been harmful (12:14, 14:35). I advocate for authenticity and unlearning obedience and shame (21:52, 22:18). I also share a personal example of owning my past mistakes as a parent to build stronger relationships with my kids (22:45).
Imagination and Creativity: I suggest that constant survival mode shuts down imagination and creativity, which leads to a lack of beauty and art in the world (18:00, 19:02).
Shifting Perspective to Create Reality: I explain how my subconscious thoughts and assumptions shape my reality. To escape a life of constant survival, I’ve had to shift my mindset from worry and obligation to a place of play and acceptance (25:11, 26:29).
Overcoming Fear of Abandonment: I’ve learned that radical life changes can lead to losing friends and family, but that overcoming the fear of abandonment can actually help prevent it (27:36, 28:26).
Processing Emotions Instead of Numbing: I talk about how I try not to numb out with distractions after a draining day, and instead choose to sit with and process my emotions to understand how my actions are affecting my well-being (28:37, 29:20).

I wrap up by sharing my journey of losing everything and realizing the importance of finding meaning in the present moment instead of chasing future rewards (30:01, 31:04). I describe my current life as a kind of "game with reality," where I interpret symbols and create stories that come true—making life more fun and revealing deeper truths (31:36)

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