44 - The Art Of An Effective Apology

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We’ve all been there—saying something in anger that we didn’t mean, only to be left with regret and a damaged relationship. In this episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs guides you through the often misunderstood art of a true apology.

You’ll learn how to move beyond a quick “I’m sorry” and instead make a real, lasting repair that rebuilds trust and strengthens connection.

Key Takeaways:

Own your actions fully: A real apology starts with clear responsibility—no “buts,” no excuses, no blame-shifting.

Validate their feelings: Empathy is crucial. Showing that you understand the hurt you've caused can begin the healing process.

Make meaningful amends: Actions speak louder than words. Small, specific efforts to repair the damage show sincerity and care.

Commit to change: Apologising isn’t just about the past—it’s a promise about the future, ideally with a plan for how things will be different.

Respect their timeline: Forgiveness can take time. Patience, humility and consistency are key to rebuilding trust.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Control Your Anger in 7 Days

angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System