And That's Okay! You've Been Told To "Suck It Up!"

We’ve all been there — going through a tough moment or feeling overwhelmed, only to hear someone tell us to ‘suck it up.’ It might come from a place of good intention, but that phrase often feels dismissive. It invalidates the emotions we’re experiencing, like there’s no room for vulnerability. It’s like we’re being told that our feelings are wrong or that they don’t deserve attention. And let me tell you… that can sting.

Today we’re diving into something many of us have heard before: being told to ‘suck it up.’ Let’s explore what that means, how it affects us, and most importantly, how we can respond to it… And That’s Okay! 

ACTION STEPS:

1. Pause and Validate – When someone tells you to ‘suck it up,’ take three deep breaths, name your emotion, and remind yourself that what you’re feeling is valid.
2. Set Boundaries – Politely assert your need for emotional space by saying something like, ‘I need to feel this first.’ Practicing this in low-stakes situations will help you get more comfortable with it over time.
3. Practice Self-Compassion – Give yourself a break and show yourself some kindness. Step away for a few minutes, make a cup of tea, or take a walk. Remember that self-care isn’t selfish — it’s essential."

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