And That's Okay! When to Validate and When to Question your Feelings

 Welcome back to And That’s Okay! I want to start today with something really personal. It wasn’t until I actually started taking time with my feelings that I realized just how much power they hold. Not power in a scary way, but power in what they can teach me… and in how they signal what’s going on underneath the surface. 

The tricky part is, feelings don’t usually knock on the door and introduce themselves. They just kind of… show up. Sometimes they come rushing in, sometimes they linger quietly in the background, and rarely do they come with an explanation or definition. That’s the elusive nature of them. 

And here’s the thing — you can’t just let them float by and expect to fully understand them. You’ve got to do a little bit of work. You’ve got to pause, notice, reflect, and sometimes even challenge what they’re telling you. And when I started doing that, everything shifted for me. I learned that I didn’t have to be at the mercy of my feelings, but I also didn’t need to shut them down. Instead, I could listen, learn, and then choose my next step. 

That’s what we’re talking about today — when should you validate your feelings, and when should you actually question them? And… that’s okay. 

ACTION STEPS: 

• Validate First
• Question Second
• Act Third

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