93. Beyond “The Talk”: Everyday Conversations About Sex, Bodies & Boundaries with Angie Enger

If you grew up in the 80s or 90s, you probably remember “the talk”, one awkward, fluorescent-lit conversation at school or a quick birds-and-bees download from your parents. But as parents today, we know it doesn’t work like that anymore.

In this episode of AND/BOTH, I sit down with returning guest Angie Enger, a sex and self-intimacy coach, parent, and former teen clinic sex ed teacher, to talk about what it really looks like to have ongoing conversations with our kids about sex, consent, bodies, and relationships.

We cover:

• Why you’ve probably already started “the talk” without realizing it
• How to move beyond mechanics to values, boundaries, and consent
• The role of partners (and why these aren’t just “mom conversations”)
• What to do when kids bring home confusing or surprising language
• How to find trusted resources and other adults to support these conversations
• Why messing up or changing your answer later is not only okay, but healthy

Whether you’re parenting a curious five-year-old or a tween who suddenly knows more slang than you do, this conversation is here to remind you: you don’t have to be perfect, you just have to keep showing up.

Resources Mentioned:

• TalkMore.org — conversation guides, age-appropriate tips, book lists
• Magnificent Sex (book by Peggy J. Kleinplatz & A. Dana Ménard)
• The Pregnant Body Book (DK Publishing)
• Recommended children’s books on body parts and puberty (Angie suggests buying both the “penis” and “vulva” versions!)

About Angie:

Angie Enger is a sex and self-intimacy coach with a background in counseling and human sexuality. She works with individuals and couples to strengthen their relationships with themselves and each other. Angie is also a parent navigating these conversations in real life, and she brings both expertise and lived experience to the table.

Connect with Angie: http://angieenger.com or

https://www.instagram.com/angieengercoach

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