S4E02: Self-Care Isn't Selfish: Practical Strategies for Thriving as a Caregiver | Carol L. Stokes, JD
- Author
- Pooja A. Patel, DrOT, OTR/L, BCG, CDP, CFPS
- Published
- Sat 12 Jul 2025
- Episode Link
- None
Summary
In this episode of the Aging Together podcast, Dr. Pooja A. Patel speaks with Carol L. Stokes, JD, a caregiver coach and advocate. They discuss the challenges faced by caregivers, particularly women, and the importance of self-care, communication, and planning in caregiving. Carol shares her personal journey and insights on how caregivers can reclaim their sense of self and find support. The conversation emphasizes the need for systemic changes to support caregivers and the importance of education and resources in navigating caregiving responsibilities.
Takeaways
- Carol Stokes emphasizes the importance of self-care for caregivers.
- Many caregivers feel overwhelmed and alone in their responsibilities.
- Communication with medical providers is crucial for effective caregiving.
- Creating a plan can alleviate stress and prepare caregivers for emergencies.
- Women often bear the burden of caregiving due to societal expectations.
- Caregivers need to recognize their own health needs to avoid burnout.
- Establishing a support system can help distribute caregiving responsibilities.
- Education about caregiving resources is essential for families.
- Breathing techniques can help caregivers manage stress.
- Systemic changes are needed to provide financial support for caregivers.
About the Author
Carol L. Stokes is a caregiver coach, advocate, and writer passionate about supporting women and families through the tough, beautiful, and often overwhelming realities of caregiving. Drawing on her many years as Power of Attorney and daily advocate for a loved one facing mental illness and aging challenges, Carol crafts practical tools rooted in compassion and lived experience—not theory. She is the creator of the PEACE Plan, a simple, actionable framework that helps caregivers move from chaos and burnout to clarity, confidence, empowerment, and peace of mind. Through her story, her writing, and her one-on-one coaching, Carol’s mission is to help caregivers reclaim their sense of self, restore relationships, and rediscover hope—even in the hardest seasons. She believes that no caregiver should ever feel invisible, alone, or powerless.
Links
- Website: https://www.CarolLStokes.com
- LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/carol-l-stokes-9271b6a1
- Substack: https://substack.com/@carolstokes2
- PEACE Plan: https://carollstokes.kit.com/thebalanceblueprint
Chapters
- 00:00 Introduction to Caregiving and Advocacy
- 01:28 Carol's Journey: From Personal Experience to Professional Advocacy
- 11:21 The Overlooked Needs of Caregivers
- 23:13 Creating a Caregiving Plan: The Importan
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